How can we live a happy life and release work tension at the end of the day?
I want to know the best solution for living a happy life and not stressing about work tension all the time. This is a particular question that I think everyone can relate to. How can we spend our time making the most out of this beautiful life, while also following our dreams?
1. PLAN AHEAD
We don’t always know what’s going to walk through our door, but we probably have a pretty good idea of the general types of pressure we may face on a daily basis. Decide in advance on a few possibilities that could occur and how you will handle them. A simple formula such as, “If X happens, I’ll do Y,” can make all the difference.
2. FOCUS ON ONE THING AT A TIME
For me–and most people–multi-tasking typically leads to chaos. I try to choose one task, see it through, and head on to the next task that needs to be done.
3. BE FLEXIBLE
No matter how carefully we plan, there’s always a chance that a situation will pop up that takes precedence over everything we’ve planned. When this happens, I take a moment to regroup and prepare to methodically deal with the new issue.
4. DON’T SWEAT THE SMALL STUFF
Not all tasks are equally important. Some of them can remain undone for later with no major consequences. Setting priorities helps me to maintain a sense of control.
5. COUNT TO 10
When I feel like I am getting bombarded from every angle, I take a short break and then look at the situation with a fresh pair of eyes. Just taking those few seconds to count to 10 gives me the distance I need for a new perspective. It makes me realize, for instance, that the problem I am attacking isn’t the primary issue after all.
6. CONTROL YOUR BREATHING
Whenever we are anxious, we tend to take quick, shallow breaths. This is called hyperventilating, and it can make us feel dizzy, light-headed, and panicky. It can also interfere with our judgment. If you catch yourself hyperventilating, try inhaling a deep breath through your nose, holding it a second, and releasing it from your mouth. Repeat this exercise until you feel calmer. This is a form of meditation.
7. AVOID A DOOM AND GLOOM ATTITUDE
Often we anticipate the worst possible–and often ridiculous–conclusion to a situation. For instance, “If I don’t get those numbers for the report by the end of the day, I’ll lose my job and starve to death in the streets.” Instead of using our imagination to scare yourself, use it to solve the problem.
8. TRUST YOURSELF
There are sometimes good reasons to change our plans, such as a new set of circumstances arising or receiving new information about a situation. In the absence of a compelling reason, however, stick to the plans we have outlined for ourselves. Random changes will only confuse us and put us behind schedule.
9. FOCUS ON THE POSITIVE
Scolding ourselves for all we didn’t get done does not help. Instead we are far better off being grateful for all that we did do. The more we practice looking on the bright side of things, the less frightening and grim a stressful situation seems.
10. DELEGATE AND SEEK SUPPORT
No one succeeds in a silo! This is especially true when the pressure is on. Don’t be afraid to reach out to others for help when needed, and offer to assist them in return. There is comfort in not being alone in times of stress.
This is really hard one and some days you will be able to leave work, release the tension and relax, other days you will go home not be able to switch off and feel terribly stressed. The one main thing to do is have separation, when you walk out of the door even if you have had the worst day, mentally leave it where it is. There is nothing you can do when the work day is over and if you take it home and are stressed, I always believe it runs over into the next day and another stressful day is in store, be kind to yourself, let go, just a little and always have something that you do when you first leave work and stick to that not matter what. Maybe have a shower or a bath and stay there for as long as you like or as long as it takes to feel the tension leave you.
Muhammad, all good info. here. One fabulous recommendation I read, from I believe Marie Forleo entrepreneur and business consultant, was once a day or weekly have NNT for yourself. Non Negotiable Time for yourself with absolutely nothing getting in the way of that SCHEDULED TIME. Schedule whatever you decide and lock it in stone. Sometimes just knowing you have the NNT time scheduled can have a calming effect. Because you know whatever is going on when you reach the NNT you'll have match, set, point for YOURSELF. Check out Marie's online videos, she makes some great points. Good luck!